Everyone of us are always very eager to join the community of married people. We have watched in silence as they walk pass us in the streets and in the neighbourhood, how they kiss, hug and laugh together without caring who is watching them.
Naturally, some of us love children and when we see a couple with many of those bundles of joy, our hunger to get married increases and we start thinking how we would make our own babies.
Being married is a very good thing but, you must never be faster than your appointed time.
As a believer and servant of the most high God, i know there is an appointed time for everyone to do anything and getting married is never an exception to this rule.
You can always pray to God and ask for His guide and timing but personally as humans in flesh and blood there are few other things you also have to do within your own abilities.
Lets consider the following signs and see if you are ready for marriage:
• SELF LOVE.
You can’t be happy with someone else until you’re 100 percent happy with yourself. You can never give what you don’t have. Sure, you can ask for your partner’s support when you’re upset, but being married is about joining two lives together, not giving up one.
Being content in your own skin means you won’t be looking to your partner to fill voids in your life.”
• KNOW THE PURPOSE TO MARRY.
There are pictures of three-piece suit and white dresses all over your Facebook feed—is that what you want?
Do you just want to be able to say you’re married, or do you really want to spend your life with your partner? Think about why you want to get married. What benefits will you get from marrying your partner, as opposed to continuing your relationship as it is? Ask yourself the hard questions and make sure you’re ready for marriage.
• YOU ARE PLANNING A MARRIAGE, NOT A WEDDING.
Weddings are fun parties, a chance to see all your friends and family in one place. But is this why you’re getting married?
Do you just want to have a big party and be the center of attention? Weddings last several hours, but a marriage lasts forever. (Hopefully!)
Don’t plan for one day—plan for the rest of your lives. Think about how your everyday life will be with your partner, even when you’re not the center of attention.
• YOU HAVE LIVED YOUR OWN LIFE.
It’s true—some high school sweethearts can marry and make it work. But that’s not common. Studies show it’s best to wait until you’re 25 or older to get married.
You’re more mature, you’ve lived more of your life. It doesn’t mean you have to be in courtship with everyone who crosses your path, but you’ve had a chance to meet different people and realize what you want and what you don’t want in your life.
• YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS DEEP.
In the beginning, you and your partner started out as mere acquaintance, went out a lot, stayed in each other’s company a lot…But if you’re getting married, you need to have a deep relationship. Deeper than just having fun all the time, going out every night, being carefree. You need to be able to tackle tough issues together, solve problems, cry together and laugh together.
• TRUST THE OTHER PERSON.
No matter how long you guys have been together, you need to know your partner completely. Don’t get married just because you’ve been courting for four years.
Get married because you know your partner. You know their past and you know their hopes and dreams. You can imagine their reactions to certain things.
You know all this and you still love them. Beyond that, you trust them. Trust is vital for a marriage, so make sure you trust your partner completely.
• MAKE LONG-TERM PLANS TOGETHER.
Once you get serious and decide to commit to each other, you need to make plans together. What if your partner wants to travel the world? Are you OK with staying home alone, or would you go with your partner? Know what each of you want, and make sure you’re OK with working through these goals and plans together.
• YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS MUST LIKE YOUR PARTNER.
When you’re newly in love, you might feel like that nothing else matters. Once you’re committed, you realize that everything matters. Initially, you might not care that your dad doesn’t approve of your partner.
What does it matter when you’re the one courting them? But over time, this small rift will affect your life and your relationship. If your family and friends don’t like your partner, where is your support system?
Will you be alienated from your friends and not invited to family events? Also remember that your family and friends know you best, and if they think there’s a problem with your relationship, maybe you should listen to them.
• YOU CAN’T IMAGINE YOUR LIFE WITHOUT YOUR PARTNER.
Overall, you’re in love with your partner. You can’t see yourself with anyone else. You can’t see yourself without your partner. If you know you can’t be happy with any other person, and you’d be incredibly unhappy without your current partner, then let it go and enjoy your loving relationship and marriage!