How To Marry The Right apostle Paul

The idea of a solemn commitment frightens many people.

Commitment is a burden to many

But

if you really love the person you intend to marry, commitment will not seem like a burden to you.

Instead, it will be viewed as a source of security.

The sense of commitment implied in marriage will make a couple want to stay together through good times and bad not to be supportive of each other come what may.

The Christian apostle Paul wrote that true love “bears all things” and “endures all things.”

(1 Corinthians 13:4, 7)

Statistics reveal that teenagers who marry are much more likely to be unhappy and seek divorce than those who wait a little longer.

So do not rush into marriage. Some years spent living as a young, single adult can give you precious experience that will make you more mature and better qualified to be a suitable mate.

Waiting to get married can also help you to understand yourself better-a necessity if you are to develop a successful relationship in your marriage.

And sometimes you have to be alone to discover new things about yourself.

Some people don’t even know themselves, for instance;

Some never had a quarrel or emotional misunderstanding with someone before. Some don’t even know how to control his or her anger, cause such person has never had a misunderstanding before.

Here are the solutions to what is written above:

 

KNOW YOURSELF FIRST.

Do you find it easy to list the qualities you want in a mate?

Most do.

However, what about your own qualities?

What traits do you have that will help you contribute to a successful marriage?

What type of husband or wife will you be?

What type of husband or wife did you think of yourself?

What type of husband or wife are you willing to be?

For example, do you freely admit your mistakes and accept advice, or are you always defensive when corrected to something?

Are you generally cheerful and optimistic, or do you tend to be gloomy, frequently complaining about something every moment?

(Proverb 8:33; 15:15)

Remember, marriage will not change your personality.

If you are proud, oversensitive, or overly pessimistic when single, you will be the same when married too.

Since it is difficult to see ourselves the way others see us, why not ask a parent or a trusted friend for frank comments and suggestions?

If you learn of changes that could be made, work on these before taking steps to marry someone.

The Bible encourages us to let God’s Holy Spirit work in us, producing such as “love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, mildness, self-control.”

For example, if you are a woman, learn to pay more attention to “the secret person of the heart” than you do to your physical appearance.

(1Peter 3:3, 4)

Modesty and soundness of mind will help you to have wisdom, a true “crown of beauty.” (Proverbs 4:9; 31:10, 30; 1 Timothy 2:9, 10)

If you are a man, learn to treat woman in a kind and respectful way with manners.

(1 Timothy 5:1, 2)

While learning to make decisions and shoulder responsibility, learn also to be modest and humble at the same time.

A domineering attitude will lead to trouble in a marriage.-

Proverbs 29:23; Micah 6:8; Ephesians 5:28, 29.

So therefore, study yourself very well now to avoid Marriage crisis or divorce in the nearest future.

If you are not matured well for marriage, please don’t rush things. When it is time no one will tell you to before ending up with someone.