If you have been desiring to be in a relationship for a while, enjoying your singleness can seem hard at times.
But the truth is you don’t have to struggle through your single season and can choose joy instead, the trick to how to enjoy being single is to understand that it isn’t an outside circumstance that suddenly makes you feel good about being single.
You have to decide to choose joy amid challenges which will help you be happy as a single Christian woman.
And this might sound easier than it seems, but it is true. Of course, as always I don’t want to let you hang by simply telling you to “choose joy”. Instead, I want to provide you with practical steps on how to enjoy being single.
In my church there are a large number of single adults, several widowers and many couples and families who are facing divorce or have gone through divorce. I know many young adults who do not see marriage in their future and are totally okay with that. If you are a single adult, a widower, or someone who has been through or going through divorce, know that God has a plan and a purpose for you. God cries and intercedes for you so that you will find that peace that surpasses understanding after the loss of a spouse either through death or through divorce. He loves and cares for you. These verses are for you.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”
2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Hosea 2:19-20 “I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the Lord.”
Mark 12:25 “When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.”
Song of Solomon 3:5 “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”
Matthew 6:33 “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Isaiah 54:5 “For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.”
Isaiah 34:16 “Look in the scroll of the Lord and read: None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate. For it is his mouth that has given the order, and his Spirit will gather them together.”
John 15: 5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”
John 15:16-17 “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other.”
Hebrews 13:5 “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
1 Timothy 6:6-8 “But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.”
Oh yes to be a single is not a bondage but just matter of time
God create us for a purposes now that we are still single let use our single life for Christ let go out to bring so to his kingdom
If you’re not ready yet to get married is of no use for you to engage yourself being in a relationship because I’ve not seen him later and see you help
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
In any relationship in our lives — romantic, friendship, family, etc. — it’s key for us to be humble, patient, kind, and eager to listen. If we channel the Holy Spirit in all that we do, we’ll receive the same qualities back in a partner
But it is a sin to have sex before marriage. Also, the Bible says not to be bound together with unbelievers. In other words, Christian’s should only marry another Christian.
A Christian Should Start Dating When They Are “Ready” to Be Married
The Bible doesn’t give a certain age for when Christians should be married, so it definitely doesn’t say what age people should start dating. While I would like to say a teenager just isn’t ready to get married, the Bible doesn’t say that, so I won’t say that. Since the Bible does not give a specific age, I won’t either. So to get this answer about the timing of dating, we will have to come at this from another biblical angle.
Who and how you date is more important than when you date. The Bible doesn’t give us a formula for how marriages are supposed to happen. What the Bible does make clear, however, is that God wants healthy marriages to happen between two Christians (1 Corinthians 7:2, Proverbs 18:22). This is why I believe the main guiding principal for all dating relationships is that they should have a goal of figuring out whether marriage is or is not going to happen between two people.
Therefore I believe Christians should only start dating when they are ready for marriage. I say “ready” not in the sense that you will be the perfect spouse, but ready in the sense that you are prepared to fulfill your biblical role as a husband or wife. If you are a male, are you ready to provide, protect, and lead your wife? If you are a female, are you ready to manage your household, raise children if you unexpectedly get pregnant, and respect the leadership of your husband?
These questions can’t be answered by someone’s age. A mature 18-year-old young man may be ready to be a godly husband more than a 35-year-old guy still unemployed with a quick temper. It’s not about age. It’s about maturity.
Most of the time there is some correlation, however, between age and maturity. Most 25 to 30-year-olds will be more mature than most 18 to 25-year-olds. That’s a generalization and does not apply to everyone. So you won’t know if you are ready to marry by your age, how far along you are in school, or by how much money you make at your job. Christians should start dating when they are ready to obey the word of God and fulfill their marriage roles without being dependent upon their parents.
I’m not saying you have to be able to afford a mortgage, have kids right away, have a degree, and be the perfect spouse. But are you ready to fulfill what the Bible says a Christian husband and wife should do for each other? If the answer is yes, then I believe you are ready to date.
Dating without the purpose of seeing if marriage is right for you and the person you are dating, in my opinion, is definitely unwise and perhaps unbiblical. Why do I say that? Because intimacy and commitment are always paired in the Bible.