Breakup In Relationship
The first major cause of relationship breakups is from the very root of the relationship. Every relationship has what it takes to survive and excel, but there are some combinations of character, purpose and attitude that takes extra-ordinary effort to make it work. Unfortunately, a lot of people enter relationships with their eyes closed. They turn a blind eye to obvious problems right from the beginning, and these same issues rise up to end the relationship later.
Like the popular Bible story about the sower, some people sow their good seeds (relationship) amongst thorns (red flags), and the red flags later rise to choke up everything
Luke 8:7
_And some fell among thorns; and the thorns sprang up with it, and choked it.
When you are about to enter love relationships, it is very important to allow a period of friendship to exist first. It is at this friendship stage that you are able to determine if indeed the two of you are compatible. Some people are just too incompatible, and yet they rush into a relationship only to be disappointed. It is unwise to propose to someone you hardly know, and it is equally unwise to accept the proposal of someone you just met.
When you are about to enter love relationships, it is very important to allow a period of friendship to exist first. It is at this friendship stage that you are able to determine if indeed the two of you are compatible. Some people are just too incompatible, and yet they rush into a relationship only to be disappointed. It is unwise to propose to someone you hardly know, and it is equally unwise to accept the proposal of someone you just met.
There is nothing like LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. Love is a deep thing that can not be determined in one day. True love is tested over time through circumstances and trials. What people call love at first sight is actually strong admiration or even lust.
Wise people don’t gamble on important things like their lifetime partners. So they do the needful and take their time to ensure a good level of compatibility first.
The popular statement – “Love is Blind”, does not mean close your eyes and enter into bomb mine field… What it means is that as you are building a relationship with someone you are compatible with, there will still be some issues that will rise up, and you must be able to ignore some to love on. It has got nothing to do with entering into a relationship that you has too many questions and too many buts.
Others also fall into this Blindness issue because they started dating too early. There is time for everything, and there is a reason why things should be done in the right time. Good things done at the wrong time often turns out wrong.
We have come to a time that before someone is even 22 years, he or she has already been 7 years in a relationship with multiple partners.. Wow!!
Entering into relationships too early is a disaster waiting to happen
Maturity comes with clear thinking patterns and good decision making. Early relationships often produces people who are in a relationship without really knowing what they want, who they themselves are and who they must spend their lives with. Entering into relationships early is entering blindness.
This is why so many people date for a long time yet when they marry are caught in a terrible marriage. They dated too early and didn’t realise they were not compatible. As they have realized their discrepancies, they also feel that ending the relationship to go and start all over again is too difficult, and as such are forced into marriages they don’t really like.
Entering into relationships with “Blindness” is a leading cause of breakups. If the foundation is not good, it is hard for the building to stand. Open your eyes and enter relationships, love is not foolishly blind